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Guess What Just Happened?

By Michael A. Verdicchio

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Why is it that the details of something negative seem to be so vivid to people's minds, yet the details of their dreams and goals seem so vague? Let me explain.

How many times do you hear someone say to you, "Guess what just happened to me?" And of course you can't say, "I don't care; I'm not interested." And so we all usually say, "Gee, what happened?"

What happens next many times is the person telling you about something that happened that is not very pleasant. And here's the interesting part: when people tell about, "what happened," they relate it in fabulous detail. Here's an example.

Getting a flat tire is not a real fun experience, but it happens. And when it does, we do whatever we need to do to change the tire and either repair or replace the tire that is flat. That's it. That's the process. But to hear some people relate their experience with a flat tire, it almost sounds like a Shakespearean tragedy.

"I was driving along and then I heard a thumping sound and just knew my tire was flat. How in the world could that have happened? Did someone drop some nails on the road?"

Get ready, because next comes ten or fifteen minutes of one negative after another. You'll probably hear about how they don't make tires like they should, and what lousy shape the roads are in these days, and how some irresponsible idiots drop nails and screws and metal all over the road.

Then comes Act II, which is all about the actual changing of the flat tire. You'll hear about how difficult it is to get to the jack and to the spare. "It's almost impossible to get those lug nuts off. When you are finished, your hands are all dirty too."

Now I could go to Act III, which is a trip to the tire store, but I think you get it. And besides, at this point you are probably getting pretty bored!

When it comes to negative situations that we all encounter in life, there are some people who like to remember those events in great detail. Even things that have happened long ago, there are people who remember and repeat the incident it as if it just happened.

But, on the other hand, ask those same people what their goals and dreams are, and where they see their life heading, and what they think the future holds for them, and in most cases you will get a pretty short answer. "Well, I'm hoping things turn out okay; I'd like to retire when I turn 65."

Isn't this interesting? Why do some people talk about negative and unpleasant situations in the past with so many clear details, but when it comes to their future, they seem to have no clear vision. They don't seem to talk about it with any excitement and enthusiasm.

This is one of the biggest reasons why some people are so negative and unsuccessful in their lives. They have actually developed a habit of focusing their minds on all the negatives. If they only knew that changing their focus to the possibilities for their future would change their lives!

I know there are plenty of people who say, "That's just the way I am." That may very well be true, but how did you get there? They fail to realize that they are the way they are because that's how they have trained their own minds.

Anyone who consistently chooses to focus and dwell on negatives is literally training their mind to look for negatives, and to see circumstances from a negative point of view. To those people the glass will always look half empty. But, even more importantly, one who continues to be negative will attract more negatives into their life.

So, what kind of future are you expecting? Where is your focus? Not sure? Take note of what is going on in your mind and what is coming out of your mouth. If it is predominantly negative, complaining, blaming, and whining, then you can expect more of the same.

Your future is really your own choice.

Instead of being immersed in all the negatives around you, get a clear picture of what you really desire in your life. Have the picture of where you want your life to go so clear in your mind that you can easily describe it to others with great excitement and in great detail.

On the "road of life" there will always be "flat tires." Deal with those things as quickly as possible and then move on. Forget about relating all the "details" of a flat tire, or anything else negative to someone. Why waste any more mental energy thinking about negative situations that are already over and done with? Instead, put your mental energy and focus on the positive things around you. Look for them; find them and embrace them!

And don't forget to remind yourself every day, and even throughout the day, of exactly what you desire. Keep that picture clear, with details, passion and emotion. Do whatever you need to do to keep your dreams alive by keeping the focus of your dreams in clear view.

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