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I find it incredibly interesting that as guys we are told by society and pop culture that you have to have money to get the girl you want. So go out there and work your butts off to collect all the stuff you want or need to show the people around you that they should like and respect you. The message boils down to this; if you have enough stuff, one day you might be happy. What a load of garbage!
Let's take a look at the average day. 8 to 10 hours spent working and 6 to 8 hours sleeping. That leaves about eight hours, or a third of your weekdays, available for building the relationships in your world. Not rocket science, right? Do men get ANY training on how to function in our relationships? Not a bit! We reach adulthood knowing more about Chris Columbus than we do about having a happy, fulfilling relationship; let alone how to attract the women we desire. THIS IS NUTS!
Women expect us to know how to have a successful relationship. They think we should know what to do and how/when to do it. The unfortunate part is the only training that we do get it is from our dumb ass buddies who haven't been taught any more than we have. So our primary form of education around relationships and women is trial and error...and error...and more error. Doesn't that suck? Changing this sad state of affairs will require an investment of time on your part. I recommend you make an investment of your time to educate yourself on living your life better. Assuming you're awake for 16 to 18 hours a day, we would say you should spend just under a half an hour, at a minimum, every day investing in your own education.
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If you are thinking "there is no way I can spend a half an hour a day on education" you seriously need to reexamine your priorities. Think about it. First, the average American spends 3 to 4 hours a night watching the boob tube. Second, most of us went to high school (12 years), then we either went to college, a tech school, or the military and spent four more years of our lives learning our trade. Then once we had our trade we spent a couple of more years trying to figure out how to be the best at what we do. Once again, simple math, we have spent anywhere from 14 to 22 years getting ready to do the job we are doing and zero on learning how develop and enjoy the relationships that we want. I'm betting that you don't spend your free time thinking "Man, I can't WAIT to go to back to work!!" Rather, most of us spend a lot of time wishing we were in a good relationship or wondering how we screwed up our last God knows how many relationships. How's that for lopsided? The interesting part of all of this is that we spent all this time and effort learning to accumulate money and toys so we could have the "happy life" that comes from having a special woman or women in our lives. Yet, once they're in front of us we either don't know how to approach them or, once we do, we can't keep them happy (so it seems). We don't have a clue what to do; particularly for the long run.
The internet and places like Barnes and Noble are filled with an immense amount of information to help you along this path. However, the information won?t just fly into your brain. You need to invest the time to absorb it and put it into practice.
It is no secret that confidence comes from knowledge. Knowledge comes from education. That education can come from websites, books or seminars. As your education investment in yourself pays off, your confidence level will go up. This will lead to more opportunities in life, much better relationships with women and even your relationship with attracting women.
Having an understanding of what makes women tick could actually change the way you view yourself, your relationships, and your own excitement and curiosity about the women you are interested in. Your confidence and sex life will go up when you know and understand how to get the type of girl you want; you are in control of that destiny, educate yourself and be happy.
Phil Gilliam is the founder and president of AverageGuy, Inc. and a published author. His goal is to positively impact the lives of 1 million men through education and coaching. Visit AverageGuy.com to learn how to build strong, healthy relationships. When you join you'll get 6 hours of audio training to kick start your transformation into the confident, dynamic man you know you can be.
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